Going Out Alone (Part 2/2)

The moment of truth
You have just finished reading a remarkable article off the website of your favorite seduction coach and you have decided to follow his advice. That’s it; you have turned off your phone and walked right out the door to enjoy your first night out without friends. You enter the first club on your way and initiate a conversation with the first girl that catches your eye. Congratulations, you are doing a fine job.

After exchanging a few words, she asks where your friends are. Lighten up. This will ALWAYS happen. Take it easy, not only is it perfectly acceptable but many wish they could be as independent and brave.  As long as you are having a great time and maintain the aforementioned playful attitude that does wonder in such social settings, it doesn’t matter whether or not you came with a bunch of friends. No, what she’s really asking is whether you’re socially inept to the point of not having friends or if you’re really just a cool guy that has the balls to go out and have fun without half a dozen obnoxious friends.   So again, lighten up. If anything, her question like most personal questions is truly just an indication of interest. Just make sure you don’t impose your presence on the first girl you meet just to have someone to hang out with, socialize with a few groups across the room if you’re in a crowded club.

Like a Butterfly
In a large venue, and if you do things well, you will have approached at least four groups in the first hour. Short playful interactions. The point here is not so much to get her digits or kiss her; you’re a social butterfly flying from flower to flower. I know it’s a cute metaphor.

What girls dread with lonely guys is that they might stick around for hours for lack of other options. Moreover, this sort of strategy drastically limits your options from the get-go.

Also, you will find it easier to approach girls when you are already in motion. That’s right, momentum is of the essence in that great big game of seduction: on your way to the bar, back from the toilets or on the stairs anything goes.
After two or three approaches, you will surely meet ‘your’ first group again, say hi or reintegrate it if you wish. The beauty of it is that you’re no longer a stranger. That’s right : you’ve met before. Briefly, but long enough to exchange names.
Like anything else on this planet, practice makes perfect and you WILL grow comfortable using this strategy.

And then they adopt you…

A group of girls “adopts” you when :

- The girls include you when they order a round
- They clue you in when they burst out laughing
- They dance with you
- They invite you or come with you when they want to smoke a cigarette
- They invite you to pose with them when they take a group picture
- They invite you when/if they go to another party

Once you have had a taste of it, you will be able to move on to the next stage: going out with your female friends by your side. This will give you a definite competitive edge anywhere you go.

But again, remember that going out alone is and will always be the ultimate test of self-confidence and a great way to develop your social skills.

Because seduction and personal development are two sides of the same coin,  develop a better version of yourself and boost your love life today!

Jean-Baptiste

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