Going Out Alone (Part 1/2)

The seduction community is growing online through various forums, blogs and dedicated forums. Many among you are making the best of it to share your experiences and opinions. If you can see clearly between geeky virgins eager to give advice and those with genuine knowledge of the subject then you may learn some useful tips. Another advantage of this recent development is that it became easier to meet up with motivated wingmen.

Good.

I cannot stress enough what difference it makes when hitting the single scene to be in good company. By ‘good company’ here I mean outgoing, fun-loving guys that want to meet women.  On the other hand, if you are going to chat up girls with your introverted, bored and boring colleague from accounting, you might just as well consider running a marathon with a ball and chain.

Better still, do what every genuine seducer I met has done time and time again: go out alone. Yes, you read it right: alone. What else would you do when friday night comes around and your friends are out of town? Another night on your couch watching TV?

Go out alone
It is not a suggestion or a good piece of advice; it is a truly unavoidable step of your learning process.

Freedom at last
The first and most obvious plus of going out without your group of friend is the freedom it confers. When the male/female proportion in a bar is off or you do not see any girl you find attractive, you just move on to the next waterhole. No need to negotiate with your cousin Tom whose favorite song is playing or hasn’t finished is tenth beer of the night. You’ve just entered the real-time dimension; you’ve become a small efficient mobile unit. You save time and energy that is best used talking to a pretty girl than convincing Fat Bob that the place sucks.

Right?

Right.

Learning energy and emotional state management
Big words, easy concept. Energy is your prime resource in the social game, it is what people and women in particular are after when they go out on a Friday night. That’s right; it’s not about the expensive watch on your wrist or how much you know about rocket science, it’s about your entertainment value and the energy you will give them during the interaction. Beginners usually complain that they do not have too much energy without their friends around to cheer them up and distract them. I say: all the more reason to do it on your own. How much you need your friends around to have a good time is usually a good indicator of your level of self-confidence.

Think of it: would you rather be dependent on your friends to feel energetic and fun to be around or would you rather be able to generate that sort of energy on your own?

You know the answer. 

That’s right. The energy that your little gang generate collectively every time you guys share a good joke or order another round, you are going to create on your own and ex nihilo. At any point, you’re free to either draw a long face or put on a great big smile. The decision to move your skinny butt on the dance floor or wait at the bar is yours to make too. You are your own best friend tonight. What’s great about it is that when you feel a rush of energy as a group of three girls pass by, they will not be a nagger on your left and a drunkard on your right to cockblock you or bust your balls ranting endlessly about taxes, politics or the next soccer world cup .

Most of all, the great lesson you take when you go out is about self-evaluation of your energy level and how to boost it without any outside help using autosuggestion and self-coaching. It is a wonderful opportunity for personal development and if you’re serious about venturing out of your comfort zone, you will try this before you try bungee jumping.

Less procrastination
How many among you feel like they are procrastinating when talking on and on with your buddies when that cute brunette at the bar is giving you the eye? Yes, I get that feeling too sometimes.
When you are alone, everything goes faster. The strong urge to keep yourself distracted will be driving you from a group of girls to the next and oftentimes from bars to bars. As a matter of fact, there is no way you can just stay there with a drink in your hand looking around without making any kind of attempt at socializing. It takes a minute to label you as desperate and lonely so you will have to get out there and socialize straight off the bat. That’s right, from the moment you leave your jacket at the door. Otherwise your social value will plummet faster than the stock market on a black Thursday. On the other hand, a great big smile and playful attitude will open doors and even if you have to kick yourself for a minute, you will soon find yourself genuinely having a great time. Ultimately, you are responsible for your own happiness.
James Bond is a fiction character
That’s right…and Santa Claus does not exist either. I don’t mean to rain on your parade but if you think it looks cooler to stand there with your best impersonation of a classy cold-blooded killer in the service of Her Majesty, you’re missing the mark by a mile. Last time I checked, people were going out to bars and clubs to enjoy a good time, not to exchange microfilms. Most of all, the mere sight of an introverted accountant trying to act like a man of mystery is sad at best and mostly just creepy. And… come to think of it… you’re also going out to have a good time, right? Right.

Jean-Baptiste

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